Death of a long-term spouse – Legacy of love or monument to misery
When long-term relationships end due to death of one of the partners, there is an inevitable adjustment to the new reality of life without someone who has always been there. Adaptation to the radical changes in life following the death of a loved one is either...
Pay me now or pay me later. The high cost of unresolved Grief
You might recognise the title of this article from an advertising slogan for an automotive product several years ago. The idea was that if you spend a little bit of money on maintenance now, you might save a tremendous amount of money, replacing an entire engine,...
Grief and Grieving: Dealing with Grief and Loss
Grief Myths Part 2 - Grief and Grieving: Dealing with Grief and Loss Why people try and replace the loss Over time, we have identified six major myths that get in the way when dealing with grief and loss. The myths are so universal, that nearly everyone can...
Grief and Grieving: How we learn to grieve alone
Grief Myths Part 3 On Grief and Grieving: Today we’re going to address the third grief myth, Grieve Alone. We’re sometimes tempted to rank the six myths in order of which is the most harmful. And if we did compare them, we might say that the false idea that we’re...
Grief and Grieving: It is said that time heals all Wounds
Grief Myths Part 4 Over time, we have identified six major myths about grief that are so universal, that nearly everyone can relate to having absorbed them early in life, although they can’t always explain what they mean and whether or not they are true or...
Grief and Grieving: Why Being Strong for Others Hurts You
Grief Myths Part 5 Over time, we have identified six major myths about grief that are so universal that nearly everyone can relate to having absorbed them early in life, although they can’t always explain what they mean and whether or not they are true or helpful. You...
Grief and Grieving: Why keeping busy is a bad plan when grieving
Grief Myths Part 6 Over time, we have identified six major myths that are so universal that nearly everyone can relate to having absorbed them early in life, although they can’t always explain what they mean and whether or not they are true or helpful. We have many...
Grief and Grieving: Don’t Feel Bad!
Myth 1 In our books and lectures, we highlight six major myths about grief. The six myths are: Don’t Feel BadReplace the LossGrieve Alone Grief Just Takes Time [or Time Heals All Wounds]Be Strong & Be Strong for Others Keep Busy When we list the...
7 Signs You’re Experiencing Unresolved Grief
You don’t need anyone to tell you when your heart is broken. You know it. • You might eat more often or completely lose your appetite.• You might have a tough time concentrating or focusing on simple tasks.• ...
Unresolved Grief: The end of difficult relationships with less than loved one
In "Killer Clichés" about loss we talked about grieving and completing our relationships with loved ones who have died. While the death of a loved one is painful, we are often complete with loved ones. That is to say that we have communicated our feelings...