Unresolved Grief: How Negative Relationships Impact Your Happiness!
A great deal has been written about dealing with the emotional pain that comes with the end of a loving relationship. Unfortunately, not all relationships are loving. Most of us cross paths with people who, in one way or another, impact us in very negative ways. For...
Anger Management and Unresolved Grief: The Connection
Why would we want to manage anger? Managing anger, rather than completing the source or cause of the anger, implies that we would keep our anger stored up and tucked away for use at a later date. When we hold onto anger that way, it turns into resentment. One of the...
Understanding Grief: Still the most off-limits topic? (Grief Myths)
More than 30 years ago, in a speech, John W. James, Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute said, “Grief is the most off-limits topic for conversation in the English-speaking Western World.” A quarter of a century later, with more than 500,000 copies...
3 Reasons Why Grief Is So Challenging
Most people have no concept of the overpowering nature of grief until they face it on a personal level. They most likely encountered family or friends who were grieving and wondered why they were so upset, because they had no concept of the emotional pain these people...
Over 40 life experiences you might have that cause grief
We’re indebted to psychiatrists Thomas Holmes and Richard Rahe for the insightful research that led to the Holmes-Rahe Stress Scale. The now-famous scale details the 43 life events that are most liable to create feelings of grief, and in turn cause illness and other...
How do I know if I have unresolved grief? It’s simple…
Unresolved grief can be caused by a wide variety of life events. Although most people associate grief with death and are upset at not being able to say a final "I love you" or "good bye", there are over forty life experiences that can cause grief, many of which remain...
The Best Grief Definition You Will Find
Since grief is such a wide topic that covers so many kinds of losses and an almost infinite range of emotions, there isn’t a single grief definition that covers it all. We use three to help people understand what is grief and what it isn’t. The most basic to define...
Grief Quotes: “Killer clichés” about loss
We have all been educated on how to acquire things. We have been taught how to get an education, get a job, buy a house, etc. You can take courses in virtually anything that might interest you. What education do we receive about dealing with loss? What school do...
How to Get Rid of Feelings of Guilt Following a Loss
Are you lugging around feelings of guilt about someone important to you who died? Are those feelings hanging around long after you—and others who care about you—think they should be gone? If so, there’s a possibility that what you’re calling guilt is something...
Get Over It! (and other bits of unhelpful advice)
When grievers are dealing with the emotional pain of a loss of any kind, they are constantly bombarded with advice that negatively impacts them. Most professional grief support providers know better than to say many of these things. The problem is that the vast...