Most parents want to do whatever they can to protect their children from painful moments and events that may touch their lives. In trying to “protect” them however, we often do not realize that we are inadvertently passing on to them the same bits of “misinformation” on how to deal with grief that we learned as children.
Grief is emotional, not logical.
Stop and think for a moment about what you learned on how to cope with emotionally painful events when you were a child. The chances are that your parents gave you a list of logical sounding reasons why you should not feel sad. Did any of those reasons honestly make you feel any better? Probably not! The problem is that grief is emotional, not logical.
More likely than not, you simply learned to hide those painful feelings deep inside, rather than express them, because no matter what anyone said, you never really felt any better! This is not because your parents or elders were trying to pass on misinformation to you. They were simply passing on to you the same things they were told as children! Up until now, there was really no useful information that parents could learn on how to effectively help their children successfully deal with the pain of a broken heart!
Helping Children with Loss Program
The creation of the Helping Children with Loss Program, by the Grief Recovery Institute, has changed that. Now you can learn tools that will not only help them today, but for the rest of their lives as well. They will also have to proper tools to cope with whatever grief may impact their lives and later to pass on to their children as well. Your participation in this program can make a real difference for generations to come!
This program is not only designed to help parents, but teachers, school counsellors and everyone else who has contact with children. These skills can be of enormous value no matter what loss a child has experienced, including, but not limited to the loss a parent, grandparent, sibling, a divorce in the family, or even the loss of a pet.
Unlike the other programs offered by the Grief Recovery Institute, which focus on taking specific personal loss action, this is an educational program, designed to give you the tools to help children.
This approach allows you to work with a Grief Recovery Method Specialist, certified and trained by The Grief Recovery Institute, in a group educational setting with other parents and people working regularly with children.
Each of these four meetings will last roughly two and a half hours.
I will take you through the materials spelled out in “When Children Grieve,” as well as how to actually utilize this information in helping each child with their individual loss issues.
As part of this process, you will work with sample situations you will face in listening to a child and being able to offer effective assistance in dealing with their emotional feelings.
While you may come into this program with a specific loss that has impacted your child in mind, I will lead you through the process of looking at all of the emotional losses that could touch a child’s heart, and how to help them work through these issues.
Even though you are working in a group setting, your personal focus will be in learning how to work with your own child on an individual basis.
These groups include a weekly commitment to total honestly and absolute confidentiality, so that you can comfortably share your feelings.
As part of this process, we may sometimes break into small groups the cover the weekly assignments. If more than one family member attends this program, they will be in separate smaller groups, to assure a greater sense of privacy and the chance to better process what they are learning.
When Children Grieve
A book for Adults to Help Children and Adolescents Deal with Death, Divorce, Pet Loss Moving and Other Losses
“There isn’t anyone in life who hasn’t experienced some kind of loss.
It’s comforting to know that we are not alone in our sadness and that practical, easy-to-read, thoughtful help is available by way of Russell Friedman, John James, and Leslie Landon Matthews’s gentle insights on the pages of When Children Grieve. Thank you, Neighbours, for your obvious care.”
~ Fred Rogers, producer/host of Mister Rogers’ Neighbourhood and formerly the honorary chairman of Caring Place, a centre for grieving children, adolescents, and their families.
Without action, there can be no change.
“Having the option of the one to one course was attractive to me as I felt I was likely to hold back from expressing my feelings, concerning the death of my wife, in a group scenario. It quickly became apparent to me that I was getting so much more from the sessions than if I had read the Grief Recovery Handbook by myself. Some two months after finishing the course I certainly feel it has been of great benefit to me.”
As parents, or those entrusted with children in our lives, we want to help our children in every way we can, especially when they are experiencing painful events. The Helping Children with Loss program provides helpful information and proven tools to effectively help children work through the emotionally painful events that happen in life.
Don’t wait any longer.